When I became a manager, I had very little guidance apart from how to use the tools for salary adjustments and approving time off. What I was missing was what to talk about in a 1:1; how to have the difficult conversations around salary, promotions, or lackluster performance; what it takes to build strong teams; and, how to make sure you're taking care of yourself along the way. The goal of my talk is to help new managers understand some of the nuance of being a successful manager. I distill my 9+ years of engineering management experience into several lessons divided into three categories: Managing Teams, Managing Individuals, and Managing Yourself. While the primary audience is new managers, I believe that individual contributors, experienced managers, and people thinking about a future in management can all learn something.